Personal Growth

Make Me Better, Please!

Wouldn’t it be great if we could command someone to make us better at those things about ourselves that we really want to change? It would be easier if someone else did the work and the result was our being happier and more engaged. Unfortunately, this isn’t possible, as you probably already know. We have…

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People Skills

The reason I devote so much energy to identifying interpersonal challenges in successful people is because the higher you go, the more your problems are behavioral. At the higher levels, all the leading players are technically skilled, smart, and up-to-date on the technical aspects of their job. You don’t get to be the CFO without…

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The Happiness Paradox

Positive spirit that starts inside and radiates outside focuses on two ingredients: happiness and meaning. Yet, as much as we all claim to want happiness and meaning in our lives, there’s a paradoxical catch that thwarts us at every turn. I want you to burn it into your memory: Our default response in life is…

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You’ve Changed! Why Haven’t They Noticed?

It’s much harder to change others’ perceptions of our behavior than it is to change our own behavior. People’s perceptions of us are formed when they observe a sequence of actions we take that resemble one another. When other people see a pattern of resemblance, that’s when they start forming their perceptions of us. For…

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Blindsided!

If we’re lucky, every once in a while, something or someone comes along and unexpectedly opens our eyes to our faults and helps us strip away a delusion or two about ourselves. It doesn’t happen often, and it can be tough to take initially. But when it does occur, we should consider ourselves lucky. Psychologists…

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How to Make 2016 Your Best Year Ever!

To make resolutions that matter, don’t look forward. Look back. By February, half of all New Year’s resolutions are broken, a thing of the past, a distant, abandoned memory. You know this. So, why not take the time now to visit your goals and think about what you really want to change. If you do,…

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Do You Work for a Know-It-All?

You know, someone who tells you what to do, how to do it, and when to do it? Someone who seems to have all the answers – even when they’re not asked! Don’t be surprised; you’re not alone. And, worse yet, not only do leaders often assume the know-it-all position, many of us work with…

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